Trying to Help My Boyfriend Stay Clean Posted: 02-04-06 09:30am
Hello, I am in search of some advice on
how to help my boyfriend kick this habit.
I have never been addicted to anything in
my life, so I am trying to support him.
He has been smoking for about 10 years and
it was heavt maybe 3-5 times a day. He
stop smoking when we met about 3 months
ago. He did it cold-turkey and it seemed
to go very well. He only had 1-2 days to
which he had cold chills, ect. Now, he
is having trouble dealing with his
emotions. He has said that he would get
high to feel good, but then if he felt too
good he would smoke to calm him down. I
am not really familiar with any of this.
I love this man and want nothing more than
to support him. I could use some advice
on what to expect and how I can be
helpful. He lives 2 hours away, and I
only see him every other weekend, due to
our kids. We do talk everyday but
sometimes the distance just is too great.
We are trying to see each other at least
once a week when we can. Please help me.
I have suggested faith, believeing in
god that we can overcome anything. But,
like I said before I have never known the
power of addiction. Thank you for
helping.
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harmony1
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Posted: 07-08-08 04:45am
Just being there for someone who is
getting off drugs is helpful. Let them
know you care. unfortunately they have to
do the rest and if they can't then they
need to get outside help ie: doctors, aa
meetings, ect
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 07-12-08 13:39pm
harmony is so right here. You can be there
as a support for him. But only he can stay
clean for himself. It's like saying "I
going to stop smoking because I love you""
No, that is not the way it goes. He has to
stop smoking and admit that he has an
addiction and know what he is doing is
slowly going to take over his life.
