Lost battle with alcoholism Posted: 03-30-08 15:29pm
I posted along time ago about a man I was
supporting in his recovery. He did 21 days
in house re-hab and at the time I didn't
think that seemed very long and he had
done other out patient rehab as well.
Anyway I visited him and supported him
before and after. We were good friends and
a lot in common and I really did love him
and was in love with him. After he got out
of re-hab he came to see me and I went to
see him a few times. He was still seeing
his friend from out of state he called a
platonic relationship. I broke off all
contact with him because I just couldn't
deal with the other woman. I got a call
yesterday with the message that my friend
is in hospice care dying from liver
failure. He went from healthy to dying in
less than 9 months so he had to have
started drinking shortly after he got out.
The other female friend had a very active
social life and got ticked when he got
drunk so I am not sure how he continued to
see her and get so bad unless he just
drank when he wasn't there but then he
would have gotten the DT's or something.
His system was totally poisoned by the
time he got to the hospital 2 weeks ago.
He has only on child who is with him and
the "girl" friend showed up as well. I was
offered by 2 friends to drive to see him.
It is an hour away but I already said my
good byes and it is his time to be with
his child in the few hours or days he has
left. NOw I have to deal with the what if
and if only's. I feel I did everything I
could for him and the battle was just to
great for him to fight. His rock bottom is
now, at death's door.
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lonestarguy
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Posted: 03-30-08 16:39pm
How sad to see that happen to someone you
love. The biggest what-if has got to be:
"What if he had stayed with me instead of
trying to hookup with the other woman,
would he be dying now?"
You're right, if you've said goodbye, then
he should see his son in the time he has
left. I don't see that a visit would be
bad, especially if you could show him he's
not alone, but I understand if you don't
want to see the other woman.
It's a tragedy for someone to die over
alcohol, but only addicts know how hard it
is to quit and stay sober.
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supporter11
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My friend lost his battle with alcoholism Posted: 03-30-08 18:25pm
My friend died this afternoon, 9 months
after I last saw him after he got out of
rehab.
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lonestarguy
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Re: My friend lost his battle with alcoholism Posted: 03-30-08 19:07pm
supporter11
wrote:
My friend died this
afternoon, 9 months after I last saw him
after he got out of
rehab.
Sorry to hear that. So sad when someone
dies needlessly.
My thoughts are with you.
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coliejo
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Posted: 03-31-08 19:22pm
I am so sorry to hear that, when I was 16,
my dad's best friend and roommate died of
cirrosis of the liver and hepatitis from
alcoholism. It was one of the hardest
things I have ever gone through. I
basically lived with him while he killed
himself and we tried to help but it was
too late for him by that time too.
I know what you are going through and if
you ned to talk about anything please PM
me. I am so sorry to hear about your
friend.
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marvin5
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your friend Posted: 03-31-08 23:42pm
a good friend of mine lost her boyfriend
when he was only about 38 to this. I
actually have a total of 3 friends who
lost their mates. The oldest who died was
last year and he was 54. Two left
children behind that are always going to
be affected in one way or another out of a
loss like this.
They and only they can help themselves and
he may not have been drinking but the
damage could have still been done because
of so many years of the abuse to his
system.
I am sorry for your loss. This is not
easy, but know that you are not at all to
blame. God Bless.
